Have you tried EFT yet? Have you downloaded my Beginners Guide and had a go? Maybe by now you will have discovered some of the positive benefits of EFT, which is great. Hopefully, you may now be thinking “can this do anything more for me?” And I like to think that it can.
Why not take it further?. You can turn “mechanical” EFT into “creative” EFT. I’ll explain. When we first learn EFT we often learn it from a paper guide like my Beginner’s Guide. I also try to explain the concept, as well as I can in the video in a previous post.It tells or shows you how to do EFT mechanically, which is an excellent starting point. When I’m doing EFT though, I never stick to the script. This is where it gets interesting! I can bang on and on at you in the guide and the video about being open to the feelings and thoughts going through your head. And tell you to tap on them of course. But after a little while you’ll start adapting the method to suit your circumstances, and maybe doing something like this:
Out loud: Even though I have this sharp pain in my left temple, I love and accept myself completely.
Thinking It’s actually more like a throbbing sharp pain…
Out loud: Even though I have this throbbing sharp pain in my left temple, I love and accept myself completely.
Thinking: Hey!, that guy at the service station was rude to me…
Out loud: Even though I have this throbbing sharp pain in my left temple – and it might be because I’m mad at the guy at the service station – (and thinking: yes, that might be why I got this headache) “I love and accept myself completely, and forgive myself and anyone else who may be involved.”
Well, I said that 3 times roughly, so let’s move on to the other points.
Physical tapping:
Top of head: throbbing sharp pain in left temple
Eyebrow: bloody rude guy at service station
Outer eye: Why did I let him get to me?
Under eye: Why did I let him get to me, throbbing pain left temple (thinking: Ah-hah – he was being sarcastic!)
Under nose: He was sarcastic just like my ex used to be.
Chin: throbbing pain, John was always putting me down sarcastically
Collarbone: I hate it when people are sarcastic, throbbing pain
Under arm: throbbing pain, Dad used to be sarcastic
Next:
Take a moment, breathe deeply and think: Woah! I just went from a headache… to my Dad… via my ex.!
Top of head: Dad was always sarcastic.
Eyebrow: throbbing pain (thinking: ooh, my headache’s eased off a bit, it always annoyed me that Dad was sarcastic)
Outer eye: hated Dad being sarcastic
Under eye: hated Dad being sarcastic
Under nose: the guy just hooked me with his sarcasm
Chin: hate the sarcasm, throbbing pain
Collarbone: hated Dad being sarcastic
Under arm: throbbing pain
Deep breath, shake out hands, pause.
And now…
Thinking: headache? Out of 10? Maybe 2? But now – the guy being sarcastic? Annoyance? 0/10… Not his fault.. My ex? A distant memory… Dad being sarcastic? Still a bit annoyed about that, maybe 4/10?OK I’ll tap on that next…
So, knowing how I need to be specific, I might move onto:
Even though Dad embarrassed me in front of my boyfriend when I was 16, by being sarcastic, I love and accept myself completely… Do you see what we’ve done? We’ve moved from a headache to a longstanding issue. We’ll now tap on that “Dad being sarcastic” memory until it fades. The headache will probably be a distant memory, but I’ll go back and check anyway.
What I find important with this is to make sure I go back and check scores out of 10 for all the things that I’ve tapped on. Once you start going down this track you’ll find you get better results with your EFT sessions. You will find yourself relieved of lifelong issues you never considered to be problems.
If your score goes UP on anything after tapping, this means there is something in behind it. If a thought came up, or a physical sensation, tap on that. If nothing immediately obvious came to you , maybe try approaching from a slightly different angles.
Try doing a round on:Even though I have this problem, and I don’t know why, I love and accept myself completely.
