A beautiful brave woman I’ve been doing EFT with, believes that love is involved with how EFT works. I’m inclined to agree with her.
For some reason many people have been suggesting to me why or how EFT works. We all seem to need to come up with an explanation for ourselves for why it gets results. I like the love paradigm. It fits in with how I’m thinking about love. What is love anyway? I believe love is the energy that runs through our bodies, it’s the space between the cells, it’s the connection between us all, its both bigger than all of us but fits between nerve cells. I think it’s the energy in our energy systems!
No doubt in some later posts I’ll elaborate on this, but the short version is that I believe love means “nothing in-between”. I’ll explain – If you love someone – you love them exactly as they are, or you are not loving them. You accept them completely. Does that work for you? Conversely, if one is keeping secrets, there cannot be love. Love is a universal truth. If we are talking about love we are talking about love in every context, so for me, love is nothing in-between. Love is the connection between us all. It’s what many of us call God! It’s the loving presence in our lives no matter what we’ve done.
My friend suggested that EFT works because when we get a reaction to an emotion or situation, it’s because we’ve shut off our own love for ourselves in that situation or feeling. EFT’s founder Gary Craig uses a discovery statement for EFT, “the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy systems”. Well if love runs through our energy systems, and it has hit a blockage, it makes sense that we have not been able to love ourselves with that problem.
The EFT set up statement is in the form “Even though I have this problem, I love and accept myself completely”. While they’re my words for it, it is common to use the word “love” in that second part. Complete acceptance of ourselves, even without the word love, is love (see my logic above).
EFT works by tapping meridian points while focussing on the problem. Tapping those meridian points, while focussing on the problem is gently resetting those meridians, and the act of touching ourselves in a healing way is a form of loving. A gentle touch is often how we are soothed as small children, by someone who loves us.
So maybe EFT is a method of applying love to ourselves. Applying love to ourselves heals our wounds. Maybe EFT is just a particularly effective way of applying the love where it’s required.
